Fed Is Best For This Mom Who Says Any Guilt or Judgments Can F*ck Off

By Lauren Levy

Updated on 11/29/2016 at 1:05 PM

I still feel guilty every day that I'm not breastfeeding Aoife anymore. Because mum guilt is a HUGE BITCH. I had my reasons for stopping. So many reasons (she took hours to B'feed, it wasn't fair on Harry, so many latching probs meant too much air then too much wind and reflux, ohh and my PND and anxiety...). At 4 months we called it quits and it was such a painful decision. Life definitely got easier, we were all a lot happier. But I still, 8 months on, think I gave up too easily. I didn't, I know that, but I still can't help being really hard on myself... Add to that the stare I got from a woman today at the park when I pulled out Aoife's bottle... Jesus, it was SO judgey. The thing is, FED is best. Aoife was (and still is) more satisfied on the bottle. It doesn't matter how we feed our babies, as long as it's safe and they're nourished and happy. Never doubt your choices, you have to do what's right for you and your whole family - whether that be breastfeeding until they're toddlers or never being able to even start. And tell mum guilt to just F OFF 😜😂 [PS I've found the comfiest 'I don't have to change bras before leaving the house' wire free bra that actually holds me up properly - prior to finding these I was still wearing my old grotty maternity bras around 😂 🙈#sohotrightnow Thanks @bfreeaustralia 🙌🏼] #fedisbest #bottlefeeding #uniteinmotherhood #nofiltermum

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When Siobhan Rennie made the difficult decision to stop breastfeeding her baby girl, she knew that she was doing the right thing for her family.

Despite the number of reasons that led up to this painful choice when her baby was 4 months old and seeing how things improved, she still struggled, not only because of her own guilt, but because of the judgments from others. "I still feel guilty every day that I'm not breastfeeding Aoife anymore. Because mom guilt is a HUGE B*TCH," Siobhan wrote on Instagram.

For her family, life definitely got easier and everyone seemed happier after she began bottle-feeding her little girl, but that didn't prevent the guilt from creeping in. "But I still, eight months on, think I gave up too easily. I didn't, I know that, but I still can't help being really hard on myself. Add to that the stare I got from a woman today at the park when I pulled out Aoife's bottle. Jesus, it was SO judgey. The thing is, FED is best. Aoife was (and still is) more satisfied on the bottle."

Siobhan knows that it doesn't matter how she feeds her baby as long as her child is safe, nourished, and happy; and she hopes that other moms can begin to realize this as well. "Never doubt your choices, you have to do what's right for you and your whole family whether that be breastfeeding until they're toddlers or never being able to even start. And tell mom guilt to just f*ck off."